To the guy who will never understand why I reacted the way I did: You probably will never read this, because you think I am crazy. You're not the first. What you perceived as an overreaction on my part was actually an attempt on my part to remind myself that you weren't trying to hurt … Continue reading Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria: An open letter
Have you ever filled the trash can past its limits? The lid won't shut anymore, you can plainly see it needs to be dumped but you keep pushing and pushing to fit more in. Why? There's a myriad of reasons: Sometimes we're too busy. Sometimes we are lazy. Sometimes we are too distracted to realize … Continue reading Cut the Garbage
The Hijab really brings out the reactions in people. Two people I love and trust today asked me if I was aware that I could be shot for wearing it... of course my answer was yes, but I could see they weren't satisfied with it. They wanted to know why I would risk myself for … Continue reading Hijab Pt II: Does it come bulletproof?
New me, same Hijab In 1963, Alex Haley's agent connected him with a publisher who had read his interview with Malcolm X, and wanted Haley to write an entire autobiography on the firebrand minister. As Haley would later recount in his now-famous epilogue, their first month of work was hard going; with Malcolm spending several … Continue reading Hijab: The Unpopularity of Modesty Part I
Being black can put you in a precarious situation. It is a slippery slope where you are constantly being accused of either being "too black" or the ever-dreaded "too white." So far in my life, I have been told that I speak too properly, am too smart or too "uppity" to be black. ( disclaimer … Continue reading For Whites Only? Resisting Diagnoses
An ADHD diagnosis can change your life. My ADHD diagnosis certainly changed mine. Three years ago I wrote this post, and boy has my life changed. Since then, I have moved, changed my career, switched up my circle, and life is completely different. I still remember how it felt when I sat down at my … Continue reading How An ADHD Diagnosis Transformed Me